Tuesday, December 17, 2013

I'm Back...and Looking Back.

I can’t believe it's been almost a year since I've posted to my blog.  I remember when I first started Mahogany Mom; I had a vision of blogging bi-weekly (or realistically, monthly) and someday turning my blog posts into book with a dual purpose - - raising scholarship money (as all proceeds would do towards a scholarship fund) and creating a platform for moms, dads, parents, mentors, etc. of all shades to engage in a discourse that empowers and motivates us to take it back to the old school where the village in deed did its part to raise our children and support  families.  Well a dream deferred but for good reasons.  This past year was spent in the academic abyss of tenure submissions and scholarly publishing.  For those of you who share my beloved profession, you know exactly where I've been for the last 10 - 11 months.  Writing and reading journals, calculating and thematizing data for content analysis (I hate quantitative data collection but was forced to embrace the numbers this time around), crying after a myriad of rejection letters and struggling through revisions only to prevail in the end...the very end, or so it seemed. 

After submitting my tenure portfolio earlier this year and waiting almost three months for a decision, I received that ever-important 'confidential' envelop with the embossed school crest!  To God be the glory for enabling me to navigate over 800 pages of documentation and I'm so very thankful for having an old as hell IBM Thinkpad laptop which is the only device in my tech-savvy home which has PDF merging software that works. 
 
In between teaching, managing my busy household, pageant mentoring, girl scouts and sports and a few Applebee's nights with the fabulous MOT Moms, I managed to write two training workbooks for a community college and an athletic department, I published articles in three journal and joined the ranks of many of my colleagues by publishing my first research textbook "Empirical Communication Research:  Letting the Data Speak for Themselves".

I really had no time to write, although there were moments in which I truly needed to purge, I stayed focused on the career journey for most of the year.  That’s often one of the biggest challenges for moms; finding that balance between career/self and others.  This year, I didn’t dive head in and take over science projects, I didn’t make last minute shadowboxes or storyboards or write essays for homework assignments that were forgotten. I relinquished the ironing of school clothes for the older boys to them (and yep, there were days when they went to school looking as wrinkled as an old piece of aluminum foil, but they were clean), and I threw a pizza in the oven a few times and didn’t care if there wasn’t a vegetable in site.  I couldn’t and refused to try and do it all.  My brain literally hurt and to make the journey even more challenging…yep you guessed it, my flash drive with EVERYTHING crashed.  After downloading a bunch of retrieval programs (which I think have infested my computer) I prevailed. 

I taught all summer, which is something I rarely do and we spent our weekends at the beach instead of our usual big family vacation.  As each day of summer faded; as the sun gently set over the rolling hills of the 11th hole behind our house, I can honestly say this was one of the best years of my life.   

By the time August arrived, I was anxious to start a new academic year, but I also wanted to get back to my word therapy. There’s never a true break for those who have a vision, but this year, I can step away from the scholarly world and return to a part of my life that I truly enjoy. 

I appreciate those in my life who offer unwavering support, those who offered patience and kindness and even those folks who were realists and reminded me to incorporate a bit of fun. I hope that you will rejoin me on this journey because this Mahogany Mom still has a lot to share! 

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